One of the most often overlooked, but very important component of any fitness program, is goal setting. I talked about it previously here and essentially laid out the reasons you really need to do goal setting as part of your program…Recap;
1. Write down your goal(s).
2. Be specific and reasonable with yourself
3. Set a date to accomplish your goal with incremental bench marks to measure progress
4. Have a partner to help hold you accountable…ME!
Once you have done that, you HAVE to share your plans and goals with your support network. Most often that will be your family but can extend to co-workers, groups you belong to or your fellow exercise team mates. Some of you may not want to tell anyone for numerous reasons. They don’t want to hear again that you are going to lose weight. They won’t believe you can do it. You’ve said so many times before, etc. Those may be valid reasons, but that could be because you never truly committed yourself to your goals. But that will never happen again, right?
Your family needs to know your plans and know that you are committed.
When you involve your family in your plans you build a support group that is there for you on the days when you need that little push to stay with your program. They are your cheerleaders and sounding boards when you need to vent frustrations. You are on a journey and all journeys need support to complete. They will help you on those days when your will power says, “Eat the ice cream sundae.”
If you keep your plans a secret you may inadvertently offend a loved one by turning down that extra helping of dessert, or choose not to have the glass of wine with your dinner. Aunt Ellie made the Peach Cobbler from scratch and you just can’t say no. Well, if Aunt Ellie knew, maybe she wouldn’t have tried to force feed you the calories you don’t need.
Be excited about what you are doing. Share your experience and success, no matter how small they may seem. Your family and friends will recognize your excitement and do everything they can to help you make your next goals. If you go to a friends for dinner it’s natural for them to want to feed you and feed you well. Let them know what your program is all about so that you don’t feel awkward saying no, and they won’t feel awkward as you turn down food they offer.
In the end, your goals will be easier to attain and your program will be easier to maintain with a support network around you. We have more power in a group than we do on our own.
So let me know, have your loved ones ever inadvertently sabotaged your weight loss goals? Have you kept your program and goals a secret because you are afraid you may fail again? Even better, tell us how your family or friends have supported you. Share your story with us so we can all learn from your experiences.