How to say NO to food pushers

Odd title to this blog post, I know…but I will explain.

I was at a holiday party last week. It was great to socialize, meet new people, talk about a range of topics and then IT happened.

“IT” was one of the party guests coming over to me insisting I eat some cookies or cake or have some of the appetizers. When I politely declined, she offered me other things wine, mixed drinks, some kind of Christmas creamy alcoholic conncoction and again I politely declined.

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Before making my way to the party I had dinner. I was full so not to be tempted by any of the holiday food joy.

Back to my story…once I refused food for the second time, she rallied the troops. Mark…Carrie is not having any of the treats…go and make her up a plate. Which was followed by “you can afford to eat it, c’mon just have a plate” Then the host hollered over to another guest and said “Christine…Carrie needs to have some of your cheesecake doesn’t she?! grab her a piece”.

Smiling and kindly pushing away the food, I insisted that I was full. Her reply was “you are small, you should eat more AND it’s the holidays” — whhhaaaattttt?

You know all heck would break loose if tables were turned and I went around telling people to put food down, can I get an Amen on that one?! #Amen

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Look lady, I have been cordial and polite but enough was enough. So then I started…I told the host that none of the food there was on my nutrition plan, that most of that sugary, fattening stuff will make me sick to my stomach…then came the doozy and I said :

 I don’t need food to enjoy the company of others.

READ THAT LINE AGAIN AND REMEMBER IT! 

I know the host and most of these food pushing guests are very nice people but that night they were jerks.  In a not so mall way, they were being bullies.  Now that isn’t to minimize real world bullying, but you know what I mean.  I honestly felt like I was being bullied into joining in their experience.

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Food doesn’t equal happiness or a good time to me. I will add a disclaimer that yes, I have had meals and have said, “Hellooooo happiness” while eating said meal.

If you are big or small don’t give in to Christmas, Valentines, Easter, 4th of July, Canada Day, Halloween food pushers.

Those Christmas calories add up fast and can get out of control fast.

This morning I got a phone call from one of the guests congratulating me on my stand and she asked me to put together a plan for her nutritional future.  She wants to start today…not after the holidays. 

Just like raising our children…when you stand up for what you believe in, the influence you can have on others is golden.

Celebrate being with the company of others.  Enjoy your time, fellowship and the company of others without the regret of doing something that you wouldn’t normally do and that doesn’t fit into your own nutritional plan.

 

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4 comments

    1. The holidays or occasions are insanely hard. Some people dont recognize what a struggle it is and by trying to force food or drinks it really is sabotage. Thanks for your comment and reading the blog, I really appreciate it!

  1. I do agree that people need to learn to just accept a “no” and move on, because as someone who doesn’t drink alcohol I get that aggressively pushed on me by a lot of people who assure me that they can fix me and I’m also a picky eater. I understand for the most part where they’re coming from–as someone who hosts other people and comes from an Italian family, I feel it is my duty to feed people and find something for everyone to eat, and usually friends just want me to have a good time and they understand that as drinking alcohol.
    Fortunately, I’m fat so no one ever really feels like they need to push me too much in the food department.

    1. Thanks for reading! It is hard with some cultures that food is the epicenter. I was raised that when I got upset, some kind of treat would help and it did for a few minutes but years of that thinking got me to over 230lbs. Thanks for your comment, I really appreciate you taking the time!

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