Is cheating ok?

Could you imagine the horror that you would experience if your son or daughter came home from school and announced, “Hey Mom, I got a really good mark on my test at school today! I cheated on a couple of the questions to help me out.”

Or how about the feeling you’d have if your spouse said, “Honey, I met this fantastic lady today and we shared a kiss. Just a little one. Only for a few minutes.”

I’m pretty sure that none of you would like to hear those kinds of statements anytime.  Cheating is cheating.  Even if it a little bit of a cheat.  The bottom line is that cheating is wrong.

We all can agree on that.

But why are so many people fine with cheating on themselves?

Why do we justify that little piece of cake or the half a bag of chips when we have made a commitment to ourselves to lose weight?

Why is it ok when we go out to dinner and order the drenched in butter or creamy sauce entrée do we tell ourselves, “Its no big deal.  This little cheat won’t hurt me.”

The problem isn’t that little cheat.  It’s the justifications (excuses) that we make to ourselves that it’s just this one time.  It won’t ever happen again.  We can have this little something tonight, but tomorrow, we’ll get right back on the straight and narrow.

The reality is that you are cheating on yourself and one little treat leads to a bigger cheat, which leads to a cheat day, which turns into a cheat week and pretty soon, you’ve forgotten all about your original goals.

The same is true when you ditch a workout for your favourite TV show or even when you do commit to showing up but you only give 50%.  You’re cheating on yourself.

Remember what our parents used to tell us? “Cheaters never prosper.”  Well, your parents were right.  Sure the first few cheats may not hurt you, but I can guarantee that they won’t help you either.

Do yourself a favour; don’t cheat on yourself.  You wouldn’t accept it from the people around you, so why accept it from yourself?

Don’t be a cheater




  1. You have hit on the key word Carrie “Commitment”. Make a commitment and then DON’T re-think it over and over again. It’s exhausting “negotiating with yourself” over and over. Save your energy for better things then “debating with yourself”.

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