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“Momalanche” of Hate…for being Healthy

In the news yesterday was a story that got some traction because of a few key words: bullying, fat, moms….

A few women went on the attack after a women who posted a fantastic picture of herself and her three kids with the caption “What’s your excuse”Maria kang

They called her a “bully” saying that she is making women feel inferior and it’s not a “normal” expectation for women.

Funny, bullies trying to turn the table. They are bullying her saying she needs to be sorry that she is committed to being fit, healthy and looking good.  “Oh my shame on her”, really?

So the “Momalanche” of hate unleashed on this girl who likely gets up at an early hour or stays up late to workout and make her meals.  Yeah, that sounds awful.  I’m willing to bet if all the hating, chastising and bullying women had a body like hers after putting in the work they would probably be burning up Instagram with ‘selfies’ of their hard bodies.  But since it’s easier to whine, mope and bellyache, they will just try to bring others down to their pity party, like the crabs in the bucket.

Being fit and looking good is a priority to her…so much so that she is willing to do the work where most people are too lazy. Then those said lazy people try to get nasty and say that she is bullying women to feel that they are not good enough. If its important to you, YOU WILL FIND A WAY, if it’s not, you will FIND AN EXCUSE.

I saw a news clip  about this story that had a panel with a “parenting expert”….what?   She also condemned her saying that it is unrealistic for moms to achieve that kind of body–WHAT???????? Are you kidding? Yes moms are tired…so are dads. Yes parents have a lot of responsibilities and it is draining and taxing on the best of days but to say that being fit and looking good is unrealistic is garbage. This kind of thinking and over the top political correctness is making this world a crazy place.  Oh, and the parenting expert that ripped apart the committed, hard-working mom of three; Aren’t we all that have children parenting experts?

I have been on the receiving end of  hate mail, nasty tweets or comments on Facebook because I am trying to motivate and inspire people to get healthy. I was a fat kid who turned into a fat teen.  I had to work my butt off to lose over 100lbs…I work every dang day to stay in shape.

After my first child, I chose to diet and I chose to sweat each and everyday to get back to my pre-pregnancy weight.  Losing 60 pounds wasn’t a task.  It wasn’t a burden.  It was a goal.  You know what’s tough?  When you balloon up 70 pounds being pregnant with twins and then try to lose that weight when your twins are only sleeping in 45mins at a shot every night …for months.  In my constant sleep deprived state I worked out each and every day because I DID NOT WANT TO BE OUT OF SHAPE AND OVERWEIGHT. I had every excuse in the world but I decided to do the work….and yes it was tough.  But I had a goal.   It was to get back to my pre-pregnancy weight, to be fit and healthy.

Why are we not congratulating people who are successful? 

The world has gone soft.  That’s painfully obvious with the obesity epidemic that’s happening.

Funny…so many people are standing on a pedestal or soap box claiming victory over their bodies and embracing being “oversized” and championing “big is beautiful”.  That’s great for them.  It’s not for me, but if it’s for them, congratulations.  But why is it OK for them to chastise hard work, dedication to health and a focus on fitness but if they are told to lose weight, stop eating and work out…then it’s bullying.  Bit of a double standard no?

I will never apologize for being healthy.

I will never apologize for being healthy.