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What if your weight never changes?

Here is my question to you, please feel free to answer it or leave a comment below.

If you stayed at your current weight would you be happy?

Could you go through the next 30,40, 50 years in the shape you are right now and be happy?



Where some might think that your physical appearance should not be tied to your happiness or state of mind, I say different. So many people are consumed…yes, comsumed with unhappy thoughts because they are over weight and out of shape. When I was at my heaviest (225lbs) there were days that all I could think about was how much happier I would be if I could just lose weight. Then there were days that all I could think about was which decadent food could I eat next. It was a viscious cycle and I am still tormented by it today. 

If you aren’t willing to make some sacrifices then you need to make peace that you are where you are and your weight will not change. In fact, and this is not to fear monger but to open your eyes…your weight will go up. Getting older and not being active means you slow down. Your hormones are involved (menopause) your metabolism slows to a grinding halt, add in stress and you have a recipe for obesity.

What will your life look like in a year, 2 years or 5 years if you continue to do nothing?


I guarantee…I mean I guarantee that if you start to put focus on your health you will feel better, you will stop feeling fat, ugly and miserable. Today is your day. Monday is the start of a new week…you get to start doing something-anything that will help you get into shape.


If you do nothing and keep doing nothing you will be unhappy…plain and simple. The emotional side of being overweight is so mentally taxing but aside from that you are taking years off of your life…which is a fact. Why would you want to do that?

Today is your day. Today is the day that you will make healthy choices and do some real physical activity.




Control for a happier life

What affects how you feel? How many times per day do you let silly things affect your mood/happiness? I’ll be honest, I’m a worrier.

I sweat the small stuff, mind you I like sweating 🙂

I have always been a worrier and I have actively tried to change it.  I think I’m better now than I used to be but I consider it part of my DNA.

Do I like it…heck no!  Would I like to be relaxed and have things easy peasy all of the time…heck yes.  Would I love to be able to say, “No worries mahn.  Evryting will be awlright.”

When you allow all the external things that you really have no ability to control to affect your mood, you are living reactively.  Trust me, I know.

  • The economy
  • Co-workers / other people
  • Your job
  • A sports team
  • The weather
  • Politics

This list could go on and on… these are all things that we have ZERO CONTROL or at the very least, very little control over.

Lack of control can cause depression, unhappiness, and anxiety.

Allowing yourself to focus on these external factors that you can’t control is a one way ticket to being miserable, pessimistic, and negative. We all know people who are just plain unhappy and we all wish that we would never want to be like them. For some they wear their unhappiness as a badge of honor or its written all over their face.  You know the ones, you make eye contact for a split second to long, they let you know how they are feeling and how bad their world is.

My suggestion to those people and the reminder I give myself is simple…concentrate on the things that YOU CAN CONTROL!!  Those things like:

  • Your health
  • Your exercise
  • Your mindset
  • Your nutrition
  • Your education

Do you happen to notice the word “YOUR” in front of everything? It’s because these are things that are directly in your control. All you have to do is re-claim YOUR POWER over YOUR LIFE.

Stop being a victim of circumstance.

Make a list of all the things you can control right now. Once the list is finished, take a few minutes and plan out how each one of those things will be accomplished and or impacted by your control on a daily basis.

Prioritize those things that are most important to you and dedicate specific time to them with positive steps and actions. 

Now you have a PLAN! You have a step-by-step, paint-by-numbers process to achieve your goals.

A huge bonus to taking full control of the things that you can control is a happier and more satisfying life.  You’ll find, as I have, that those things that you can’t control don’t bother you as much and they fade away.  Focus on the positive and the negative isn’t as noticeable.  It’s a win-win for your attitude and even a bigger win-win for your health!

The damage that is done to your body by stress that unnecessary worry and uncontrollable worry creates shorten your life and deteriorate the quality of your life!

Take control of your life and your happiness!

Don’t just take my word for it, watch this…